Changes

With the new year upon us, this is generally the time for people to reflect on their lives and the year that is about to end. I am not unlike any other in this respect (although I’m pretty sure I submit to self-reflection on a weekly basis, which can be helpful, albeit frustrating at times). It’s the time where everyone wants to make a change, where you set goals, and use this “new year” as a marker of time to wipe your slate clean and start fresh.

As I grow older, my mindset of time has changed. I no longer think in days or weeks or years, numbers on a calender that mark when a particular time begins and another ends. I think in moments, in experiences. A significant relationship. A death of someone close. A successful career move. Conversations. Adventures. Reactions. I guess it’s like the old saying goes, “People will forget what you said and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” So I suppose I measure my time in feelings.

My last significant life moment was the death of my friend Iain in July. It was unexpected, unfair, and hit me pretty hard. I guess you could say that was when MY “new year” began. A different page in my life. My thought process has changed. We are all aware that life is both the longest and shortest thing we will ever experience, and yet it can still be cut even shorter at a moment’s notice. I try to live life honestly, even if that honesty isn’t what people might want to hear, but since July I have found it more imperative than ever before to practice this honesty. I have never been great at articulating my emotions exactly, but now it’s really important to me to make sure people know how I feel about them, to be clear, to never regret the words I never said. This isn’t to be confused with the “YOLO” ideology that so many 20-somethings have adopted (which frankly just seems like an excuse to make potentially dangerous decisions, sorry, I’m actually 70 years old). It’s to make sure people know if and when they are appreciated, to let go of the life relationships that don’t work, to remove added stress from my day-to-day life.

In these past five short months, I have made new friendships, strengthened others, and let some go. I have addressed a complicated life relationship that I have been avoided dealing with since my teenage years, and no matter which way it goes, I feel that a giant weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I have been more spontaneous, spent more time on my passions, and relocated to a healthier living space. I have also made my college honour roll for the first time, due to less courses for my stress levels, a lot of hard work, and a few late nights in the campus library.

So no, I won’t be setting any goals for myself in 2015. I feel that my new year has already begun, and instead of goals, I’m just going to keep feeling – and take it from there.

Life, Loss, Lessons.

A friend of mine was killed on Monday afternoon. I could sugar-coat it and say he “passed away”, but that wouldn’t be the case. It wasn’t peaceful. It wasn’t his time. It was sudden and unexpected and left everyone who knew him in complete shock and disbelief. On a path of self-discovery and a bicycle making his way across the Southern states, he was hit by an 18-wheel tractor trailer and died instantly.

My initial reflex when I first started typing this was to say ‘a good friend of mine’, but we weren’t actually all that close. One of the many things I never a chance to say to Iain was that I personally considered him a good friend. I missed the chance to get to know him better, to strengthen the bond we already had, to make many more memories and enjoy each other’s company for all the years to come. I had immense respect for him. He was honest (so much nearly to a fault). He was generous. He treated women well, veiled underneath the crass and offensive comments he would make.

I didn’t think this news would hit me as hard as it actually has. I didn’t cry at all when I found out. It was right before bed, so after a chat about this with a friend of ours, I just went to sleep. But this has been the hardest week of my life to get through.

I’ve experienced loss before. Most of us have. However, I think we all realize that there are varying degrees of loss. I’ve lost my great-grandma, who was a wonderful woman but also 100 years old, who passed away in her sleep. She wasn’t sick, there was no pain. It was the best possible outcome. I’ve lost my family doctor and a semi-friend I met through through (as our two jobs intersected). They were both ill, and it came hard and fast and one day they were there and one day they were gone. Of course I was sad, and of course I wish the circumstances had been different and they didn’t have to go – but this feels completely different. I’ve attended three funerals in my life, but never once have I shred a tear when I’ve said goodbye.

This is the first person I’ve lost where I feel completely devastated. I missed work. I cancelled plans. I feel like I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve never experienced this before. I don’t know how long this feeling is going to last. I keep feeling like this is a sick joke, and I can’t wrap my head around the fact that I am literally never going to see my friend again.

This experience is also a really weird wake-up call. Iain died doing something he loved, on an adventure he was squeezing all the juices out of, taking a risk to do something in betterment of himself and his life. How often do many of us want to do something, but are too scared to bother for one reason or another? How many times do we allow ourselves to hold ourselves back? I think to some level, we’re all aware that no one lives forever and you will never know how long we have on this Earth.

If you died tomorrow, would you be happy with your life as is?

I couldn’t for certain say yes.

Something in me tells me that Iain found what he was looking for, that he had finally seen in himself what all of us friends and family had always seen in him.

I’m going to do my best to start living with less fear. To pursue happiness, in all its forms.  To take a risk on something that could change my life.

But right now, I’m just really missing my friend.

Iain Edward Gerrard: 11/04/1991-14/07/2014

Fashion… In the Eye of the Beholder?

This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. One thing about fashion that I absolutely love is all the varied looks a person can put together, how diverse people are and how fantastic it is to walk down the street and see humans from all walks of life wearing something different. Fashion pushes the limits. You will see things on the runway that you will rarely EVER see worn out in everyday life. You can mix and match items from different time periods, and create something innovative that looks fresh and appealing. You can stand out from the crowd and not blend in with the trends in the magazines (though it’s totally cool if you want to wear those too!).

However, the fashion industry is booming and it waits for no (wo)man. It’s relentless. Trends flash by in the blink of an eye and before you know it, that item you just bought isn’t ‘in style’ any more. I’ve also begun to consider fashion from a feminist perspective. AKA, feedback from others on what an individual is wearing. We struggle with many feminist issues in society, including but not limited to sexism, body-shaming, and slut-shaming. Each of these issues is a gigantic weight of a problem in itself, and it’s really easy to pass judgement on others without even realizing it – especially when it comes to their clothing choices.

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School Dress Codes

These have always bothered me, and not in a “I’m a rebellious teenager let me wear what I want!!” kind of way. I don’t understand why skirts/shorts/dresses had to be of a certain length to be considered appropriate, or the tank top strap width of 2 fingers wide was a rule. I don’t understand why all hell broke loose over visible bra straps, especially when all or most preteen/teenage girls ARE wearing bras – primarily for the physical support they offer. Overall, it just seems like female students are being punished solely for having female bodies. These clothes are viewed as “inappropriate for school”. I have to ask, why though? The reasons given for those rules are confusing to me. Because it’s distracting? Because they’re too ‘young’ to show that much skin? If anything is a distraction around here, it’s the fact that females are being asked to cover themselves (yes, even in very warm weather) in order to prevent distractions. I’d like to know who they are supposedly distracting – classmates, teachers? For one, teachers shouldn’t be looking at students’ bodies, and especially not hard enough to be ‘distracted’ by normal body parts like thighs, stomachs, and shoulders. The same rule applies for classmates, when these apparently offensive body parts are only viewed as offensive if they are connected to a female body. I consider this extremely sexist, especially as there are no gender-specified dress code rules for male students.

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Body-/Slut-Shaming 

This is something many of us do (or have done previously), probably without even considering the impact it can have on someone else. When comments are made about a larger woman such as “She should wear clothes that fit” or “She’s too heavy to get away with something that short/tight/revealing”, we are essentially saying that another human being is too visually unappealing to wear the clothing she likes. I’m sure that she looked in the mirror before she left the house that day, and felt happy and confident with her reflection. Ergo, we have absolutely no right to comment on what someone “should” or “should not” be wearing in regards to their body type. No right at all. The same applies for comments about skinny women, such as “I can see her bones, that’s gross”. Especially if the weather is warm, people are going to dress to reflect that – negative comments about their weight, regardless of what size they are, have no place here. I’m hoping this can become widely accepted within the fashion industry. The same types of awful comments are made about those whom choose to show lots of skin, warm weather or not. “She looks like a slut.” “If I were her parents, there’s no way I’d let her out of the house in that outfit.” “Aren’t your boobs supposed to stay inside your shirt?”  Why are we so determined to shame women for showing their body? We all have the same body parts, and it’s a personal choice whether or not you want to expose them. It doesn’t make it right to insult women for making that choice, although it may be different from yours. Nobody claims there is anything sexual about male shoulders, male stomach, or male legs – yet they’re ‘too’ sexual to be viewable on a woman? Not to mention, breasts are basically just fat and their primary purpose is to breast-feed after childbirth. There’s nothing too sexy about that. Yet a low-cut top that shows cleavage is a ‘slutty shirt’. This is the way society views clothing, this is how we have been trained to think. We need to put an end to shaming of all kinds, and very much so in the fashion industry where most of us have a critical eye for clothes.

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You tell her, Laci!

“Bad” Outfits

We’ve all seen them – the lists in magazines, on television, and social media discussing ‘Hot or Not’, ‘Who Wore It Best’, and ‘x amount of Worst Outfits Worn to This Public Event’. Most recently, there’s been a lot of hype regarding the Swarovski-studded gown Rihanna wore to the 2014 CFDA Awards. Many are calling it disgusting and offensive due to the see-through nature of the garment, which again leads me back to the body sexualizing in the above paragraph. I personally think she looked incredible, and was too entranced by the glistening design to even notice much else. So why do we have these lists? Does it make us feel like we have to balance out our favourite celebrity outfits by naming the ones with the “worst” fashion choices? Or do we simply feel like we need reasons to tear beautiful people down? This idea of pitting outfits against each other seems silly. Our comments aren’t just directed at celebrities, however. How many times have you or a friend pointed out someone’s outfit only to call it hideous? Or to say that they look like they got dressed in the dark? All too often, we let our own personal fashion choices dictate what we think is appealing, which in turn affects how we view others’ apparel. I maintain that if you feel good in your outfit, that if you feel confident, comfortable, and happy, then that is what you should be wearing. No one should make you feel inferior, especially when it comes to something as simple (yet as expressive) as clothing.

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5 things I’ve learned so far in life.

Lately on the internet, I’ve been coming across a lot of articles about life lessons, things you should/shouldn’t be doing at/by a certain age, and most of it just sounds really preachy and judgemental. Every human being is different, we all walk a separate path and experience life differently. While some things are common knowledge and could be applied to everyone, having specific recommendations of what ‘everyone should do in their 30’s’ or ‘what women should be doing in their early 20’s’ just feels weird to me. 

Human beings are constantly experiencing and forever evolving. I’m not the same person I was 4 years ago, and that person was radically different from the girl I was 4 years before that. I’m not old, but I’m also not as young as I once was. I have lots of memories, have seen and done some crazy things, and on my journey I had definitely learned a lot. That being said, here are some things I personally have learned – which could potentially apply to you (but maybe not)!

  1. If you’re going to skip school, do it right. Don’t hang out in the hallways or on school grounds, hoping you don’t bump into your teachers. I never remember the stuff I talked about during these times, only when I got out and DID things with people. In the same respect, if you’re going to go to class, then focus! If I actually went to class, I went to learn and do the work. If I wanted to chat and play around on my phone, I’d rather do that without a teacher yelling at me and maybe giving me detention.
  2. This is going to sound really cliché, but life is too short to do things you don’t want to do. Obviously this doesn’t apply to responsibilities like work, paying bills, etc., but as far as your personal life goes, you have full say. I’m not going to regret not seeing that horror movie with my friends (because I hate horror films) just because everyone else was going. I will of course attend things to support my friends/family/partners, but there is a difference between support and submitting. I won’t go to that party if I am having a bad anxiety day, because I won’t have fun and I will likely regret it. If you’re my friend, you’ll understand that and have my back. Don’t guilt me because ‘you haven’t seen me in so long’. We never know how long we get on this Earth, I’d really rather not spend it doing activities I have no interest in.
  3. It’s okay to be sad sometimes. Or mad, or whatever. There seems to be this vibe imprinted on us that says we need to be happy, or at least always striving for happiness. And yeah, I love being happy, it’d be cool if I could be like that always – but that’s not the case. That’s not the case for a lot of people. It seems futile to constantly work towards happiness, do all of these things that are apparently the stepladder towards the ultimate Gates of Eternal Happiness – because sometimes I will get sad, and sometimes things will just piss me off. Because I’m human, and it’s natural. All power to those who are usually content, and/or want to work on making themselves happier. But knowing myself, I could be at my highest point of happy – and then life (or my mind) sets off an emotional land mine and well, here I am crying into my roommate’s dog again. I know it won’t last forever, and I’m all right with that. 
  4. The most toxic people in your life can be the hardest to remove. It always sucks when the realization finally dawns on you that your ‘good’ friend of 6+ years is actually someone you should have cut a long time ago. Sometimes these people are even family members, which makes it harder. I now have to ask myself the same questions when I am assessing a personal relationship. Does this person usually make me feel better after talking to/seeing them, or worse? What do we discuss when we talk? Do I feel safe with this person?  This can be really hard to do, but once it’s done, you realized how much happier you feel without the negative energy. I never usually realize how unhappy I felt by their involvement in my life, until I no longer have them in it.
  5. Lipstick and lip stain can completely change a face. Sometimes if I’m too lazy or tired for full makeup, I just do foundation and then throw on some lipstick. My whole face instantly looks brighter and I appear more well put-together. Life hacks ftw.

I was too tired to think of more than five. Maybe I’ll add more at a later date!

Black Milk Clothing Social Media Disaster – A Guide on What Not to Do

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Yesterday, this above photo was posted to the Black Milk Clothing fan page, with a statement that states the staff member wants to look like the woman on the left, and ends up looking like the woman on the right.

This meme erupted on Facebook, causing loads of fans to comment stating how this was inappropriate, that it offended them, and that shaming of any kind is not okay – especially when you are running/promoting your company, and most of your fan base is female.

Black Milk’s reaction? Deleting comments, banning people, and basically replying with “If you don’t like our jokes, you are free to unlike the page and stop shopping with us.” What a way to keep your customers loyal! I have exactly zero experience in running a business, and even I know that one of the many things NOT to do is direct [potential] customers away. The post was eventually deleted by Alicia (one of the social media team members) due to ‘negativity’. Here are a few screenshots of the comments some (ex-) fans have taken and shared with me or the general internet:

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Longtime ex-customer Kristen has this to say about the matter:

“The issue isn’t bodyshaming. That post puts women in a competition none of us agreed to, and implies that geeks and gamers can only be sexy if they dress and style themselves in a hyper sexualized, highly feminized manner. It inherently shames women who don’t want to be sexualized within the geek/gamer community and perpetuates misogynist stereotyping. It’s mean.

And I don’t think anyone should sit around and defend BM. Their treatment of their community is horrendous, they regularly violate copyright when making their “original” designs yet encourage their fans to shred other companies who use similar commercially available fabrics, and they’ve perpetuated rape culture and racism in the past year.”

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But wait, there’s more!

Think this is the first time Black Milk has overstepped the line? Think again.

How about this post from Easter?

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Presenting some casual body-shaming for your holiday weekend. I suppose this could be taken in the sense of  “spend your money on leggings instead of chocolate”, if Lana hasn’t stated in the comments that she didn’t follow her own advice and ate a chocolate bunny for breakfast. Also, since when does chocolate cost $75? I really don’t see the connection here, if this post was not INTENDED to be body-shaming. Comments were also deleted on this thread.

Or how about this time Lana was in full support of blackface on Instagram?

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I don’t think I even have to explain what’s incredibly inappropriate about this one.

Or what about that time they told people to ‘go right out and read’ a Batman comic that includes a brutal implied rape scene, without a trigger warning for the content? But apparently, it needs to actually be CALLED rape, in that specific word, for them to do anything about it.

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It takes 5 seconds to apologize for their insensitivity, and edit the post to include a trigger warning. But this isn’t what happened. Instead, more excuses were made because it wasn’t actually called rape. As a previous Black Milk customer between the time period of March 2012 and January 2014, this is when I removed myself from the community. I’ve sold off most of my pieces, and I haven’t purchased from them since. I stepped down as one of the 3 admins for the Black Milk LGBTQ group (which I created because I thought it was a glaring omission among the 30+ other community groups), and removed myself from all groups as well as the fan page. Excusing rape-culture related issues is something I find inexcusable – whether you’re one person who makes a rape joke, or a company attempting to sell you products.

This is the link to the original comic artwork – TRIGGER WARNING for sexual assault/abuse/brutality of women. http://robot6.comicbookresources.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/killing-joke-gordon.jpg

That really looks like rape to me. If I had clicked on it without a warning from a friend, I would feel incredibly messed up. Shouldn’t Black Milk feel that their customers deserve fair warning before delving into this type of material?

Or how about the time they shamed one specific customer publicly on the fan page for becoming a teenage mom?

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This young woman shared this before and after photo, presumably because wearing Black Milk makes her feel good, and she wanted to share that you could still look awesome when you’re expecting.. so Black Milk takes advantage of this by reposting her pictures, and tells us all to “party responsibly?” You might as well say, don’t party too hard or you’ll end up a pregnant teenager like this girl! The company knows nothing about her personal life, nothing about her choices and decisions, and have no idea about anything she has gone through. This post was cruel, uncalled for, and likely very embarrassing for the female targeted. I really hope she was sincerely apologized to following this incident, but given the way BM tends to handle their mistakes, that’s unfortunately not very likely. [Note: If the girl in these photos ever comes across this post, I want you to know that you have the full support of myself and many other people out there! This was hurtful and wrong for Black Milk to do, and that’s why I’m sharing it now. Also, you look amazing in both photos! xx]

Chinese New Year release? Otherwise known as, an excuse to sell new items release!

Black Milk’s 2014 Chinese New Year collection was completely void of anything to do with the holiday. The artwork of this panda shirt was done by a Japanese artist, and I think that’s the connection they attempted to make? …Except that Chinese and Japanese are two different cultures and are not by any means interchangeable. Pandas also have nothing to do with the holiday. Have I mentioned that the release date of the collection was not even the SAME date as Chinese New Year? This is a definite far cry from the Chinese zodiac pieces that were put out for the celebrations in 2013.

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Let’s talk about the Black Milk “Commandments” – because it’s not important to practice what we preach.

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How about you be excellent to your customers? How about you don’t compare one woman to another with the intent of saying one appearance is more attractive? How about you have a reasonable discussion and engagement with your fans instead of deleting all opinions you don’t agree with? And how about you DON’T compare racism to llamas?

To sum up, the geek-girl post was not a one-time thing. Black Milk Clothing regularly posts content that shames people for varying reasons, deletes replies that aren’t to their liking, and displays a “sorry-not-sorry” non-apologetic attitude when putting an ‘end’ to posting discussions. Their fans built them from the ground up, and this is how we are treated in return. The Black Milk “community” you speak so highly of is the same community you are now disrespecting. Alicia stated in her final statement regarding the geek-girl post that ALL of the Black Milk team are in agreement.  Whether these problems lie in the hands of the social media team itself OR the business as a whole, these are the people you have representing your brand. Please consider where your money is going, and the kind of company you are supporting.

If you have any comments, questions, or want to contribute to this topic (I may follow up on this post at a later date), please feel free to contact me! I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions (and I won’t delete them either)!

 

 

Aside

I just wanted to apologize for my little hiatus – final exams are this week and I just got a job last week, so I’ve been busy busy busy over here!

You can expect me back in full force soon, I hope! 🙂

Turn your closet into cash in just 3 easy steps!

Hi everyone! I hope you all had a great weekend. 

Today we’re going to talk about the many ways you can turn your unwanted items into money in the bank. Some of you may already be familiar with some of the tools used to do this, but you might also learn something new!

Step One: Assess your wardrobe.

This is the part everyone hates, but it of course has to be done to reap the rewards! Clean your bedroom, clean your closets, make a pile of what you want to keep and get rid off. Once you’ve done this, examine the items you want to get rid of – are there any stains? Any holes? Any other faults? If so, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s not sell-able. It’s up to you to assess the damage and figure out if it needs to be tossed, or if minor repairs can be done – in which case, most buyers I’ve found are likely to purchase the item anyway, but typically only if given a discount. How much of a discount, this is also your call.

Step Two: Decide where to sell.

I personally use a variety of online outlet to sell my items. These are the ones I am currently using.

Ebay: I’m sure we’re all familiar with Ebay. It’s reputable, it’s fairly easy, and the feedback option helps you to know who is good to sell to and won’t mess you around. The only downside is, their fees take a good chunk out of your final price, and if you’re selling because you really need the money then paying a fee isn’t ideal.

http://www.ebay.ca/

Kijiji/Craigslist: These sites are basically the same thing. You can pick your city, pick your selling category, and basically post up anything you want to sell for free. However, you make arrangements to meet up with the buyer to make the transaction, whereas most of the other outlets I’m talking about requiring shipping them out. Make sure you are able to meet with someone if you have agreed to sell something, don’t be that guy who bails.

https://www.kijiji.ca | http://www.craigslist.org/about/sites

Facebook: This is currently my most-used selling area. You can create albums of the things you’re selling, and share them with your friends list. You can create an event, and hold item auctions within posts on that event, like your own personal fee-free Ebay. There are also local buy/swap/sell groups, sometimes for specific items and sometimes just for anything at all! I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t paid rent before purely by selling lightly-worn clothing through Facebook. It really does work!

Step Three: Complete the Transaction

Once your listings are up, you have to stay active online. Emails, comments, messages should be able to be replied to within 24 hours. If you didn’t include photos with your listing, send photos of the item(s) to any interested party that inquires. if you’re doing a deal in person, be sure to be on time – and if you don’t know them, always choose a public place! If the sale requires you to hit the post office, be sure to do so on your agreed date. I typically take photographs of the package and send it to the buyer, just for piece of mind (and include the tracking number, if they have paid one). I also recommend PayPal be used as the method of payment, for those transactions in which there isn’t any real-life meeting. They charge a small fee to the seller, but this way you are both protected in case anything goes wrong.

Soon you’ll be getting rid of all the unwanted items taking up space in your home, and turning it into cash!

The Bazaar of the Bizarre, Spring Edition

Hello everyone! I hope you’ve all had a fantastic week. I’ve been extremely busy with schoolwork as exams are (not-so-) slowly creeping up, but I gave myself a break on Sunday afternoon to check out the Bazaar of the Bizarre!

I’ve attended the bazaars a few times before. They generally have it four times a year, once a season. Just like any other bazaar, vendors set up shop to sell their handmade wares to the public. However, this one has a twist – all sorts of creepy, unusual, and inventive items are up for grabs, among the other typical items such as homemade cosmetics.

This time, there was a booth that sold spiked and leather clothing exclusively. There was a couple art and jewelry vendors, in which skeletons, skulls, and anatomy-shaped items were a common theme. I always tend to find the most feminine booths and stick to them like glue, because that is more up my alley (as if you couldn’t tell)! This bazaar was no exception, so of course I did some minor shopping while I browsed around.

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Nail Kandy

http://www.nailkandy.ca | kate@nailkandy.ca | http://www.facebook.com/NailKandy | http://www.twitter.com/Nail_Kandy

This booth was one of my favourites! The owner and creator (Kate Bland) produces hand-mixed nail polish, painted glue-on nails, and accessories. I am a nail polish junkie, and will buy new shades as often as once a week, so I rarely turn down the chance to try out a new brand. Glitters and bright colours are typically the shades I lean towards, so I went for a Nail Kandy top coat called ‘Flirt’ that had both! I currently have this shade over top of a berry polish, and it gives off almost a watermelon effect. I also picked up this amazingly cute mermaid necklace. I almost didn’t go for it because as much as I love mermaids, this one is a bit too little-girl cute for me. However, the extra underwater accents were so pretty that I took the plunge anyway.

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Dara Gold – Illustrator & Fine Artist

http://www.daragold.ca | gold.dara@gmail.com | http://www.facebook.com/daragoldart

Dara’s work is absolutely incredible! I was fascinated by the idea of making art using tea stains. There was some framed art for sale as well as a book of tea stain prints, but there was also a much smaller album where you could choose a ‘mini’ tea stain and she would draw a picture for you. Wait times varied between 10-20 minutes, depending how many people were ahead of you. I had noticed some large mermaid art in the prints book, and since I am clearly a mermaid fanatic, that was my request. Didn’t she do an amazing job? 🙂

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Last but certainly not least, I picked up this gorgeous little galaxy hair bow from an accessories stall! Unfortunately, in the hustle and bustle I completely forgot to pick up a business card, so I have no idea who I bought it from. I will be on the hunt for the creator, and I will be back to update this post once I find her! But I couldn’t resist sharing the cuteness of this with you in the meantime.

Thanks for joining me again, and have a great weekend everyone! ♡

Online Shopping Spree at NastyGal

Hello everyone! I hope you’re all enjoying this slowly-warming weather. Here in Toronto we’re supposed to hit 10 degrees tomorrow, and that’s pretty exciting to me! I also have a job interview in the afternoon, so it will be nice not to have to bundle up over my interview attire.

So my 2013 tax refund came in this morning, and it was a pretty decent chunk of change. So like any responsible, fashionable girl would do, I paid all my bills for the next month in advance – and then treated myself to a shopping spree! I have most of the money tucked into savings, but I couldn’t resist stocking up on some super-cute summer items.

NastyGal is my absolute favourite online shopping site. The clothing ranges from edgy to feminine to casual, and there is never a moment I don’t have a wishlist the size of my elbow. I’ve had my eye on a few pieces since they first became available on the site, and most of them were even on sale! So I’ll be sharing with all of you the newest additions to my summer wardrobe. ❤

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Cat Scratch Velvet Moto Vest: http://www.nastygal.com/product/cat-scratch-velvet-moto-vest

I don’t currently own any vests and have never been a huge fan of them, but something about this one pulled me right in! I love animal prints generally, however leopard print is my absolute fave. I’m already visualizing the outfits I can style this with – I’m a big fan of mixing edgy with cute!

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MinkPink Third Base Metallic Tee: http://www.nastygal.com/product/minkpink-third-base-metallic-tee

This gorgeous tee was a major steal, priced at $17.40 (regularly $58)! Most of the items I’ll be showing you guys were on sale, but I think this item is where I reaped the biggest savings. I prefer my tops to have a looser fit, especially as I wear a lot of leggings and tighter-fitting skirts. Metallics are another personal favourite, and the shine of the shirt gives this classic style a modern face-lift.

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Life Of The Party Skirt: http://www.nastygal.com/product/nasty-gal-life-of-the-party-skirt

I’ve had my eye on this skirt since it first came out, but I just got around to buying it now. I find the pastel balloons to be almost painfully cute, and skater skirts tend to be flattering on most body types. I’m so excited to dress this up!

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Maybe Baby Maxi Skirt: http://www.nastygal.com/product/maybe-baby-maxi-skirt

I have always preferred short skirts/dresses to long ones, but last year I borrowed a maxi dress from a friend and it was the ultimate in comfort! However, it takes a lot for me to step out of my style comfort zone so I hadn’t purchased anything maxi until now. But it was so pretty, in a lovely shade of mint and a side slit, that I just couldn’t resist. Hope I don’t regret it!

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Hyper Fluoro Dress: http://www.nastygal.com/product/hyper-fluoro-dress

I fell in love with this dress the moment I saw it. Typically florals don’t do it for me, but whenever they do, it hits me hard. I have always been drawn to short, strapless dresses and this beauty is no exception. Packed full of vibrant colour, this is a definitely must-have for summer 2014 – plus, it’s now 30% off!

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Fun Future Dress: http://www.nastygal.com/product/nasty-gal-fun-future-dress

This is actually my second try at this dress. It was part of my previous NastyGal order, and going off previous NG experiences and my general sizing, I ordered it in a medium. Unfortunately, the fabric doesn’t stretch at all and it was very tight-fitting. I couldn’t get it on entirely. So, I cut my losses and sold off the dress to a friend. I hadn’t realized until recently that the item was still available on the site, and in larger sizes too! So I threw in a large dress with the rest of my order, and I’m hoping for the best that it fits me this time around. It was no longer on sale for $20 as it was when I first purchased it, but considering the original price was $118, it was still a deep discount and only cost me $35.40!

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That’s all for now lovelies, see you next time! ♡

Toronto Vintage Clothing Show

So yesterday afternoon, a friend of mine and I attended the Toronto Vintage Clothing Show. They hold it twice a year in the Toronto Metro Convention Centre, once in September and once in March. I signed up for email notifications back in the fall, so a week before the show I received a coupon for $2 off admission – a perk of being a subscriber to the event. Regular admission is $10.

There were so many booths we honestly had no idea where to start. Finally we just picked one and tried to wrap a square around the room, and then weave in and out between the aisles. I was amazed at all the variety. One booth sold strictly vintage designs of famous designers – Dolce and Gabbana, Betsey Johnson, and Valentino, just to name a few. Not to mention, all clothing was 50% off the ticketed price at that same booth!

One of my favourite booths had to be one that sold almost exclusively jewelry. Better yet, it was cheap! I scored a lovely necklace for $14 and a pink glitter bangle for only $4! 

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I also came across this crazy shirt at one of the booths. I didn’t buy it, as it wasn’t my style, but this is a piece from a collaboration between Lanvin and H&M. It had all sorts of embellishments and extra details on it – the eyelashes are sequins which are partially sewed on, so you can move them around if you want to! I just found this really interesting and wanted to share it with you guys.

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Another vending was selling vintage clothing and handbags, but there was also a crate of old advertisements and magazine spreads taken from vintage issues Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar, and more. I fell in love with the fashion pages, but unfortunately couldn’t take all of them home with me! So I settled for this absolutely stunning photo featuring a sleeveless fur housecoat by Mainbocher, from the October 1937 issue of Vogue. Now all I need is to find the perfect frame for it!

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These are some photos of some of the vendor layouts, and the items they had for sale. Lots of shoes and handbags!

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I didn’t end up purchasing any clothing myself, because as luck would have it, everything I fell in love with was either too big or too small! Such is the way of vintage shopping, unfortunately. But the two items I WOULD have gotten, had they fit, were both skirts. One was a deep blue suede, pencil-skirt style, with a small slit in back. The other was a 60’s-style miniskirt, and let’s just say that ‘mini’ was definitely the right way to describe the length – it was supershort! The skirt was a lovely teal hue, and had two black squared pockets on the front. Maybe next time I’ll have better luck with sizes.

Are you guys a fan of vintage things? If so, where do you like to shop? Let me know in the comments. 🙂

Until next time! xo